I hear a version of this from almost every woman who comes to work with me: I was doing everything I could think of – watching what I ate, trying to manage my stress, pushing through. But it never felt balanced. It never felt like enough.
That was Kendra. She’d been trying to get pregnant for 6 years. She was already doing the work – the food, the exercise, the research. But something was still missing. The pieces weren’t coming together.
Maybe you know that feeling.
What I’ve seen, again and again, working with women on their fertility journeys, is that it’s rarely just one thing.
It’s not only the food. It’s not only the stress. It’s not only the medical protocol.
It’s all of it, and the way those pieces connect to each other, and to you.
Kayla came to me after 5 failed IUIs, about to start her first IVF cycle. Before we started working together, she told me she was eating once a day. Not because she didn’t care about her body, but because she was so consumed by the grief and anxiety of her journey that she’d gone almost numb. “I didn’t process any emotions I was dealing with,” she said. “I just felt stressed.”
Erin had been trying for years, diagnosed with unexplained infertility, and completely consumed by work. She’d been struggling with digestive issues for so long she’d just accepted them as normal.
Ashley, 18 months into her fertility journey, described having, “a really unhealthy relationship with food.” She wanted help, but she was clear: not a crash diet, not restriction. Something sustainable.
Carly was prepping for a frozen embryo transfer and struggling to nourish herself in a way that felt manageable and meaningful.
Each of them came in carrying something different. But they all arrived at the same place: wanting to feel like they were doing something, something that honored their whole self, not just their diagnosis.
Here’s what I want you to know about the work we did together.
We talked about food – definitely. And we also talked about the boundaries that were hard to set, the emotions that had nowhere to go. We found meditation, journaling and meal prep rhythms that actually fit into real lives.
Kayla put it beautifully: “The information I gained is something I will use forever. It began as something to help me with fertility, but it has helped me so much in my life.”
Kendra, who at 29 weeks pregnant with excellent health stats across the board, said something that has stayed with me: “I learned how to better care for myself, which means I’m so much more ready to care for another human.”
And Kayla again, when I asked what made her happiest: “Truly feeling the change in myself. She helped me find peace in my IVF journey.“
Peace. In an IVF journey. That is not a small thing.
Ashley went through the holidays, for the first time she could remember, without extreme weight fluctuations, binges, or restriction. “That was huge to me,” she said.
Erin overhauled her diet, resolved years of chronic digestion issues, and reduced inflammation her doctors had flagged as a fertility barrier. She’s now a mom of two.
Carly went into her transfer in a better headspace than she’d ever been before. “Maybe that’s why this one worked,” she said.
This work is not a guarantee. I will never promise you that.
But what I can tell you is what Erin said when someone asked if it was worth it: “Give yourself the gift of health. This was the most important thing I could do for myself.”
And what Kendra said, to anyone on the fence: “Working with her is so much more than just fertility.”
If you’re in the thick of this journey right now – whether you’re just beginning, or you’ve in it for years – I’d love to talk.
Not to overload you with changes. Not to hand you a meal plan and send you on your way.
But to sit with you, figure out what your puzzle looks like, and help you find a way through that honors your body, your mind and your whole self.
Book a free, fertility support session here.
xo,
Jennifer
P.S. Kayla said something I think about often. She said that before, she was “completely consumed with the negatives” of her fertility journey. After our work together, she could look at others going through the same thing and notice how different her experience had become, how much lighter. “I feel the weight of fertility lifted off my shoulders,” she told me. That’s what this is for.